MOM & FATHER - DIFFERENT but SAME & SIMILAR but NOT SAME

DIFFERENT but SAME & SIMILAR but NOT SAME

The One Who Loves Us until he Closes Eyes is ... MOM

The Person Who Loves Us with No Eye Expression is ... FATHER ____________

MOM: Introducing Us to the World.
FATHER: Introducing the World to Us.
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MOTHER: Bringing Us to Life.
FATHER: Bringing Life to Us.
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MOTHER: Keeping us from Hungry.
FATHER: Makes We know the meaning of Hungry.
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MOM: Giving Us Love.
FATHER: Gives Us Responsibility.
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MOTHER: Teach Us Not to Fall.
FATHER: Teaches We Wake when Falling.
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MOM: Teach Us Walk.
FATHER: Teaches us the Way of Life.
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MOTHER: Teaches us through her experience.
FATHER: Teaches You to gain Experience.
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MOTHER: Introducing Ideology.
FATHER: Introducing Reality.
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MOTHER LOVE IS GENERATED BECAUSE We are Born.
LOVE FATHER Known When He's Alone.
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Love your FATHER.
Love your mother.
As long as they are still there
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The House Will not Be Serious Without Child's Presence, but ...
Home will be more Silent when Mother & Father was gone ...

this is just a Joint Reflection for Us as a Child and as a MOM & FATHER for Our Children ...

As a Family, we have to ...
Remind each other,
Love each other even
Mutual forgiveness.

We can not choose to be born in this Family or in that Family.
Everything is in His Design and We know that God's Design is Always Great,
Stay how our Choice ...
Choose from...
Be Thankful & Happy or
Grieving & Not Gratifying So Never Be Happy.

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Our Attitudes Should Be Facing Differences

Our Attitudes Should Be Facing Differences
If we can not now end our differences, at least we can help make the world safe for diversity. (John F. Kennedy)

What we have to do ... is to find a way to celebrate our diversity and debate our differences without fracturing our communities. (Hillary Clinton)

This whole universe of God's creation has a tremendous diversity of charms. As fellow members of the solar system, the earth we live in is much different from the moon and the sun, and the rest of the solar system. They are all different from the stars in the universe. Despite having similarities among the people of the solar system, we will not dodge the glamor of pluralism and its usefulness for human life.

To deny the diversity of God's creation is the same as to deny all of God's omnipotent creatures.
Yes, we also know for sure that we live only once. One of the problems that happen in life is our attitude and behavior in the face of those differences. In fact, the difference is to be an integral part of this life. Problems that arise in life, among others, because we are a less intelligent use of differences as capital to build strength in life. The difference of opinion is certain. The revenue difference may be. Different skin color is not just a theory. The author's whitish-skinned grandson says his sister's skin is said to be "charred", it can happen in his own family, also in his own country, even in another place.

If Barack Obama, who is a black American, can be a very popular president of the United States, why should we question the color of the skin to exaggerate the differences, rather than emphasize the importance of unity? Once again, we live only once, and for that, we must be able to uphold the divine greatness, which indeed has created the difference as a grace we should be grateful for.

How Do Our Attitudes Facing Differences?
First, to believe that difference is a reality and necessity as God's grace. Believe that the difference is a matter of confidence. We are created as different men by women, but God has united in the great institution of marriage. Therefore, the difference is indeed a definite reality. That is to say, we must tamper with God's destiny that we may be different from neighbors, with fellow citizens, with coworkers, with fellow human beings, who are destined to be full of diversity and plurality. The difference is a blessing in our mortal life.

Secondly, trying to solve the problem of difference wisely, understandingly, mutually appreciative, and without coercion and violence. The wise man says that we must be able to make the difference as capital to be power. Therefore, we must be wise in acting, open to managing something different.

Third, to face the difference is not enough simply by silencing, or even by denying its existence, but it needs to be deliberate. In accordance with John F. Kennedy's advice, 'if we can not end our differences, at least we can help the world be safe for diversity'.

To understand the difference, we need data and information about what's different, how the difference is, and why it's different. The data and information are needed to - if possible - approach the reasons for the difference, to unify the differences into similarities. Here we need dialogue, requiring deliberation. Originally it was done politely, not kicking the table when explaining the facts. If in the end there is no agreement, then what to do is to accept with open arms, and appreciate the difference as it is.

Fourth, responding to differences through exemplary, not just for yourself, but an example for others. Especially for leaders, the example will be a guide for everyone. Indeed exemplary must be formed from self, from family, and then spread in life.

Fifth, address the differences by establishing policies, programs and joint activities that are formulated democratically, transparently, openly and accountable. The difference is not just a matter of theory, but rather as a practice that requires the implementation and implementation of a fair and can avoid the possibility of the emergence of prejudices and wrongs.

Thus are the five attitudes and behaviors that need to be exercised while facing all aspects of the differences in life. Hopefully, this short article is useful for the readers in dealing with and solving problems related to differences.

Character Education, Whose Responsibility?

The character of the nation that marked the quality of moral or character of the young generation, especially among students today is felt quite worried. This phenomenon is characterized by the decline in social life, moral ethics in the practice of school life which resulted in a number of negative excesses that concern the public.

The excesses are, among others, the increasingly widespread deviation of various religious and social norms of life which is manifested in the form of the students' disrespectful treatment of teachers and school staff, lack of discipline and ignores school rules, lacks the beauty and cleanliness of the environment, the occurrence of fights among students, drugs, and others.

Why does the phenomenon occur? 
Certainly many factors. One of them is because there are still many teachers who tend to be indoctrinated and transfer of knowledge that emphasizes the cognitive aspect and ignores the effective and psychomotor aspects. As a result of these mistakes, learners have knowledge but do not (less) understand and implement aspects of manners in community life. This is because learners do not have a value system that they believe

Other factors that cause education in schools are not successful in inculcating the character in the sense of guidance character of students because there is still a mistaken opinion of teachers. The teacher's assumption is misleading and should be straightened out, basically, all teachers are obliged and responsible to teach the value and morals to learners who are done in an integrated manner.

One of the missions of education is to characterize the nation's character by protecting, preserving and developing the nation's culture and noble character in school life. It has been agreed that character education is included and integrated into all subjects. And more to be expected is character education becoming a part practiced in everyday life in school.

Another interesting factor to be discussed in relation to the application of the nation's character is the issue that regulates the regulation of protection of teachers in applying coaching to students. Experience shows that when many teachers are "groomed" by applying school rules, the phenomenon of juvenile delinquency and the decline of the nation's cinematography is increasing.

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Character Education itself aims to encourage the habits and behavior of learners are commendable, and in line with the universal values and cultural traditions of religious nations, inculcate the soul of leadership and responsibility, learners as the nation's successor, fostering the strength and sensitivity of the mentality learners to the surrounding situation so as not to lapse into deviant behavior, both individually and socially. Improves the ability to avoid disdainful traits that can damage yourself, others and the environment.

This goal can be achieved when Character Education is implemented into the learning process in all subjects and practiced in school life.

The values of character and manners that can be integrated and practiced in schools are, among other things, the belief in God Almighty and obeying his teachings, obeying the teachings of each religion, possessing and developing an attitude of tolerance, self-esteem, the growth of self-discipline, work ethic/ethos of learning, have a sense of responsibility, have a sense of openness, able to control themselves, able to think positively, develop self qualifications, grow a sense of love and affection, have togetherness and mutual cooperation, have a sense of solidarity, mutual respect, and manners, have a sense of shame, cultivate honesty.

These values can be embedded to students during the learning process experience in the classroom as well as the process of learning outside the classroom in shaping student behavior. In addition to character, character education should also include knowledge of human rights, tourism, the environment, consumerism prevention, population, forestry, home industry/economy, HIV / AIDS prevention, drug abuses, peace, democracy and increased consensus on values universal in the learning of appropriate subjects.

In the process of teaching and learning teachers and school, stakeholders should be a sample figure in each behavior that can color the behavior of all students. It is therefore clear that the relationship between the creativity of teachers and school stakeholders in acting, behaving, communicating at all times should support the learning of each subject in the classroom or outside the classroom.

A teacher is a central point of successful character education and character in school. But the success of character education in the national scope is very unlikely without the support of others such as exemplary officials, media support, exemplary community leaders and other parties. Just imagine how difficult it is for teachers to explain the importance of law when officials disobey the law.

There are at least two requirements that must be implemented so that the learning process can integrating character education and character education, namely (a) professional sharpness of teachers in anticipating the use of various possible hooks that must be done by the students to lead to the realization of intra-conceptual links or between interface study and (b) material control over the areas of study that need to be linked. In relation to Character Education and Character Education as an integrated learning with all subjects, the hook direction is intended to be questions that must be answered or the tasks that must be done by the students that lead to the development of character and manners and the development of the quality of humanity.

Teachers of junior and senior high schools should be able to apply the development of student personalities and the mastery of skills and skills required to master an initial basis of disciplines in a balanced and synergic way. We do not expect to give birth to a skilled young generation without character, nor are we hoping to give birth to a generation of virtuous character who has no skills. What we expect is a superior generation of high-skilled and good-natured.

Character or character develops through four stages: anatomical, heteronomic, sociodramatic, and anatomical (Bull, 1969; Rachman, 2000). Given the manifestation of morality through the stages of child development and the influence of the environment in which the child has the right to develop himself then the education of manners should be given early, now, and always at all times. Therefore, teachers in schools, parents at home, instructors/trainers in the course, community leaders in the community in developing children's character must be spontaneous and immediate. Spontaneous in responding, rebuking, directing when children do not match the value of manners; immediately give reinforcement when the child acts in accordance with the value of manners.

Again it is necessary to affirm and realize that character education and character education are not only the responsibility of one subject teacher but must be integrated into all subjects taught in school as well as in various school activities. Activities held in schools, especially student activities need to apply the totality of education by relying on exemplary, creation of the environment and habituation of good things through various tasks and activities.

Basically, the school environment can be done through:
1. Assignment
2. Habituation
3. Training
4. Teaching
5. Direction
6. Exemplary

All have a strong influence on the formation of student character and character. Each school activity must contain elements of character education. This can be found, among others, in scouting activities containing education of simplicity, independence, solidarity and togetherness, love of the environment, and leadership. In sports activities, there is physical health education, sportsmanship planting, cooperation and perseverance to strive, and others

The formation of character and character of learners is not enough to be given only in schools but must be supported by outside school education. Out-of-school education as in the family by parents, in study groups by instructors or tutors; in courses by trainers/builders; and in the community environment by peers, community, exemplary community leaders, exemplary officials, political elite elegance, and the like. They are all, proportionately should be able to provide religious beliefs, cultural values, moral values, and skills. The integration, continuity, and sustainability of character education developed in schools with character education outside of school are expected to produce generations of nations who have the character and noble character as expected.

Mentoring and Counseling Service, Definitions, Purposes, Functions and Types of Mentoring and Counseling Service

MENTORING AND COUNSELING SERVICES, DEFINITIONS, PURPOSES, FUNCTIONS, AND TYPES OF MENTORING AND COUNSELING SERVICES
Understanding Guidance and Counseling Services - Service is a service that has the meaning of helping to prepare (take care of) what one needs; serve, receive (welcome) invitations (challenges, attacks, etc.). Service about or how to serve, serve. While the definition of Guidance is to show, give way, or lead. others toward a goal that is beneficial to his life in the present, and the future.

The guidance is defined as follows: showing the way (showing the way); leading (leading); guide (conducting); give instructions (giving instruction); regulating; directing (governing); give advice (giving advice).

However, this does not mean that all forms of assistance or demands are Guidance. The guidance contained in an institute is a moral Guidance, in which a teacher can motivate his students to be more enthusiastic about learning. Not material. For example, if there are students who have not paid then he came to the teacher and the teacher gave the student money, of course, this assistance is not a form of assistance that is meant with the understanding of Guidance. The term guiding terminology, according to Crow & Crow (1960), quoted by Prayitno and Erman Amti Bimbingan is defined as,. Assistance provided by a person, male or female, who has adequate and well-trained personalities to the individuals every age in helping him organize his own life, developing his own view of life, making his own decisions and carrying his own load.

From the above definition can be concluded that the Guidance is a process of continuous provision of assistance from a mentor who has been prepared to individuals in need in order to develop all the potential possessed optimally by using various media and techniques Guidance in the atmosphere of normative care in order to achieve independence so that individuals benefit both for themselves and for the environment.

Understanding Counseling

Etymologically, the term Counseling is derived from the Latin, ie .consilium. which means .with. or. together. which is strung together. or understand. While in Anglo-Saxon, the term Counseling comes from .sellan. which means submitting. or while conveying .. While dealing with W.S Winkel etymologically Counseling comes from English, Counseling which is associated with the word Counsel, defined as follows: counsel (to obtain counsel); advice (to give counsel); talk (to take counsel).

Counseling in terminology according to Mortensen (1964: 301) quoted H. Mohammad Surya is,. Counseling as an interpersonal process, in which one person is assisted by one other person to improve understanding and skills, find the problem .. Counseling is characterized by a professional relationship between trained counselors and clients. This relationship is usually done individually, although it sometimes involves more than two people. It is designed to help clients understand and clarify their views on the scope of life and to learn to achieve its goals.

Who quotes from Pepinsky and Pepinsky (1954), Counseling is an interactional process: (a). occurs between two individuals who are called counselors and clients, (b). occurs in a personal (professional) situation, (c). created and nurtured as one way to facilitate the occurrence of changes in client behavior, so he obtained a decision that satisfies his needs.

If viewed from the opinions of experts described above, appear to complement each other. So from the above explanation can be concluded that Counseling is a process of assistance provided by the counselor to the client so that clients can understand and direct his life in accordance with its purpose.

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Counseling Guidance Relationships

The word Guidance and Counseling is a word that can not be separated because it is interrelated, but there is also the opinion that Guidance and Counseling is a different word. According to Hallen, the term Guidance is always coupled with the term Counseling. This is because Guidance and Counseling is an integral activity. Counseling is one of the techniques in the Guidance service among several other techniques.

While the Guidance is wider, and Counseling is the most important tool for service business Guidance. The same opinion is also explained by Nana Syaodih Sukmadinata explaining that, Counseling is one of service technique in Guidance, but because of its very important role, Counseling Aligned with Guidance. Counseling is a therapeutic Guidance technique because the target is not a change of behavior, but the more fundamental thing, that is an attitude change. Thus indeed Counseling is an attempt to change one's lifestyle. To change one's lifestyle cannot be only with informative guidance techniques, but it needs therapeutic or healing techniques.

While the opinion that between Guidance and Counseling are two different understandings, because Counseling is more identical with psychotherapy, which is an attempt to help and work on individuals who experience difficulty and serious psychological disorders. While the Guidance by this view is considered synonymous with education.

From the above information can be concluded that between Guidance and Counseling has a close relationship in which between the two complement each other in helping clients or others in solving a problem and change one's lifestyle. Changing the wrong lifestyle becomes true, the negative lifestyle becomes positive. So the client can direct the life according to its purpose. Because the task of a counselor or counselor is to provide good direction to the guided.

Goals and Functions of Guidance and Counseling

1. Goal Guidance and Counseling
In an activity be it formal or nonformal there will be a purpose. So also with Guidance and Counseling. The purpose of Guidance and Counseling are: According to Tohirin, the purpose of Guidance and Counseling is: to gain a better understanding of the client's self, directing the client in accordance with its potential, able to solve their own problems faced by the client, can adjust themselves more effectively both against himself and his environment to gain happiness in his life.

The purpose of Guidance and Counseling by Hallen is:
a. Guidance in order to find a person meant that learners recognize their own strengths and weaknesses.
b. Guidance, in order to recognize the environment, is intended for participants to know the environment objectively, both social and economic.
c. Guidance, in order to plan for the future, is intended so that learners can consider and make decisions about their future, whether education, career or cultural field, family and society.

Guidance and Counseling has a purpose that consists of general goals and special goals.

Common Goals Guidance and Counseling helps individuals to achieve optimum development according to their talents, abilities, interests, and values, as well as fragmentation of problems faced by the individual (client). Including general purpose Guidance and Counseling is to help the individual to be independent with the characteristics of being able to understand and accept himself and his environment, make realistic decisions and plans, direct himself with his decisions and plans and ultimately manifest himself.

The specific objectives of Counseling and Counseling are directly related to the client's developmental direction and the problems at hand. The special purpose is an elaboration of general goals that are linked to the problems of the client, both concerning development and life.

From the opinion of experts, it is clear that the purpose of Guidance and Counseling all leads to learners so that learners better understand themselves both from the shortcomings and the advantages. And also, help learners to dare to take their own good decisions (according to talents, abilities, and interests) for himself.

2. Guidance and Counseling Function
Guidance and Counseling function according to Syamsu Yusuf and A.Juntika Nurihsan are:

a. Understanding, which helps learners to have an understanding of himself (potential) and the environment (education, work, and religious norms).
b. Preventive (prevention), the counselor's effort to always anticipate the various problems that may occur and trying to prevent it, so as not experienced by learners.
c. Development, the counselor always strives to create a conducive learning environment.
d. Improvement (healing), which is a Curative Guidance function. This function is closely related to providing assistance to students who have experienced problems.
e.Channeling, the Guidance function in helping individuals choose extracurricular activities, majors that match the interests, talents of students.
f. Adjustment, which is a Guidance function in helping individuals (students) to adapt dynamically and constructively to educational programs, school rules, or religious norms.

From the above explanation can be concluded that the function of Guidance and Counseling in addition as an understanding for himself (learners) and the environment, the function of Guidance and Counseling as well as a healer (improvement) for learners who have difficulty when getting a problem that is difficult to solve which causes learners to be pessimistic and inferior.

Principles of Guidance and Counseling

In providing tutoring teachers should consider some of the principles of them are:

The principles of Guidance and Counseling are:

a. Tutoring is given to all students. All students are either smart, fair, or poor.
b. Before giving help, the teacher must first try to understand the difficulties faced by the students.
c. Tutoring provided by the teacher should be tailored to the problems and factors that lie behind it.
d. Tutoring should use varied techniques.
e. In providing tutoring, teachers should work with other school staff.

While in Kartini Kartono's book, the principle of Guidance and Counseling is that everyone is valuable, an important principle, learners also have the potential and right to gain success in their lives.

He should be helped so that his potential becomes a reality. The opinions of Kartini and Kartono are also similar to M. Arifin's opinion which explains that every individual has nature (basic ability) that can develop well when given the opportunity. For that through good Guidance.

From the above opinion, the author agrees with the opinion of Kartini Kartono, who explains that everyone is valuable, in the presence of such principles, then learners feel that they are valued by others. So that learners will be more excited (optimistic) in facing problems both at school and outside a school. In addition, the learner will also assume that he is not discriminated from other students because he has the opinion that he has advantages over others.

Guidance and Counseling Techniques

In general, the techniques used in Guidance take two approaches, namely group approach and individual counseling.

1. Group guidance
Techniques used in helping students or groups of students solve problems through group activities. Some special forms of techniques Group guidance are homeroom program, field trip, group discussion, group activities, student organization, sociodrama.

2. Individual Counseling
In this technique, the provision of assistance is done with a relationship that is face to face relationship (a relationship of four eyes), which is carried out by an interview between counselor with counsel. Problems solved through this counseling technique are personal issues.

Some of the guidance and counseling approach, namely:

1. Directive Approach.
2. Non-Directive Approach.

Briefly, both approach Guidance and Counseling can be explained as follows:

1. Directive Approach.
This approach is also known as Counselor-Centered Guidance. This trait indicates that the counselor plays a major role in the interaction process of Guidance services. The advisor is trying to find and find problems experienced by his client.

2. Non-Directive Approach
This approach is also known as a Client-Centered Guidance service. Nature shows that the guided party is given a major role in the field of interaction of Guidance services. Characteristics of non-directive relationships:

a. This non-directive relationship puts the client in a central position, the active client to disclose and solve problems.
b. Counselors act only as drivers and creators of situations that enable clients to grow on their own.

Types of Counseling and Counseling Services

The services provided by School Guidance can be grouped as follows:

a. Student Data Collection Services
b. Illumination Service
c. Placement Services
d. Teaching Service
e. Extension services
f. Research and Assessment Service (evaluation)
g. Public Relations Services.

Brief types of guidance and counseling services can be explained as follows:

a. Student Data Collection Services
In accordance with the notion that Guidance is an aid to an individual facing a problem, it is certain that success or failure of a relief effort in the course of the Guidance will depend on much of the information or information about the individual. Therefore collecting such data is the first step in the overall Guidance activity.

b. Illumination Service
What is meant by this ministry is to provide a clear and complete explanation of the details of each student's needs, whether on education, work, social, or personal?

c. Placement Services
The essence of this placement service is to help the individual gain adjustment by putting himself in the right position. The purpose of this placement service is for each individual to be in an appropriate position of his or her situation, such as interests, skills, talents, ideas, level of development and so on.

d. Teaching Service
What is meant by the teaching service is the activity of providing assistance to the students in overcoming the difficulty of difficulty in teaching. The goal is for each student to get a good adjustment and develop his ability optimally in teaching activities.

e. Extension services
Counseling is the core of Guidance program activities. This extension activity in addition to functioning as a therapy (healer), can also serve as a way of collecting data. Counseling is a professional activity, meaning it is done by people who have education and expertise and special experience in the field of counseling.

f. Research and Assessment Service (evaluation)
The purpose of this service is to conduct research and assessment on issues related to Guidance and Counseling program activities. A good Guidance program always bases itself on the results of research and assessment.

g. Public Relations Services.
In addition to providing services to students and other school personnel, Guidance activities provide services also to parties outside the school, the community. The purpose of this service is to work closely with various parties in the community in solving problems related to students' problems, such as child mischief, truancy, lethargy, drop-out and so on.

Variety of Ways to Make you guys Student Achievers

A variety of ways to make you guys Student achievers
Every student must have goals and dreams that you guys want to make it work. This is a must have since first being a freshman. Surely not the just purely academic achievement but, as well as achievements in other fields (Hard skill nor Was). Why should be accomplished? Perhaps the question that is often asked by most freshmen. The answer is because we have to boast of our parents who have been educating us to rank colleges. Of course, it is not easy to send to this level. because the cost is very high, and this makes one of the reasons so that all of you have a passion for learning.

In addition, achievement can also lift the positive image of the institution campus and become a tool for the students in applying for a job. Because each employee has a right to the same student to become an accomplished student. Student Achievers are rated not only based on the academic aspect only, rather than extracurricular activities you follow. Student Achievers has also not determined his dream. well, here's a variety of ways to make you all students achieving good results? The following explanation.

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1. Review Courses
Make the program review subjects turned out to be very helpful to a student for academic achievement. Completed college students studying a restart or reset all the material recorded the newly delivered lecture lecturer.

In this way, it was proven to maintain the material already submitted the teacher. in this case, we do not have to reread all the material we already wrote, we need only read his summary so, you guys can understand the material easily.

2. do not want to be a Mediocre Graduates
Students are seen as the intellectual high. so do not waste this opportunity. During bears the status of a student, you can be proud of. However, to keep in mind when you graduate, when you graduate, it means the official sign you have separated from the status of a student.

With you, mediocre graduate, you will be crushed by the global progress. Our country is currently following MEA imposed late 2015 yesterday. With rival ye not only from within the country but from abroad as well. A student achiever is a provision you in preparing for your future descendants, who know with Excel you will get your dream career.

3. Hone the skills that you guys have
Not only is the ability in the areas you are interested in but also should deepen capabilities such as public speaking and Solicitor should we exercise too.

Public Speaking, Public Speaking also to be owned by the student, arguably Public Speaking is one of the foundations of the success of a person. Sometimes in our work smart demanded to negotiate with clients.

Entrepreneur, sometimes we engaging have an item that may be on our payroll as an employee it is insufficient. The only way to buy them is entrepreneurship. Because entrepreneurship in money that we get no limit, unlike an employee who's been pegged by the company. With the entrepreneurship we have many benefits in addition to ourselves, we are also useful for other people as we create jobs for others, so "don't be afraid of entrepreneurship".

4. Get a broad Friendship Connection
The connection is also one of the factors that make us successful students, surely must be a friend who gives a positive impact

We as students have a network connection so that we can develop later. With extensive connections we have, then we can ask the assistance of one of our friends the

5. Active in an organization
With our active organized, then we can get to know the figure-a remarkable figure and also we can be able to learn from them, such as how their learning by the participated organization we can learn management of time correctly and can also ripen your personal social.

Do you guys already practice points above? Prepare for Success starting from now. so, do not waste the opportunity at a young age.